Miscarriages and male infertility
I think the African mentality is just wired to believe that women are solely responsible for infertility and miscarriages in a marriage. No one pauses to ask questions, to look deeper, or to think that a man could also be the reason. Women mostly bear the blame alone, even when the truth points elsewhere. Men should do better. Go for semen analysis and confirm that you are fit for reproduction
“I never imagined marriage would feel like this. When I walked into my husband’s home as his wife, I carried dreams in my heart—dreams of children running around, calling me mummy. But instead, I’ve been carrying a different weight.
I have lost five pregnancies. Each one left me emptier than the last. The worst part isn’t the pain in my body—it’s the whispers that follow me. My mother-in-law looks at me with eyes sharp as a knife. She says I am a witch, that I sacrifice my babies in the night. Rumors spread that I destroyed my womb with abortions before marriage, that my body is now too weak to carry life.
Do you know how it feels to grieve and still defend yourself? To bury a child you never got to hold, then fight rumors that you killed that same child? I cried silently many nights, pressing my face into the pillow so no one would hear.
At first, my husband believed his mother more than me. He never said it outright, but I saw the doubt in his eyes. I begged him one day, after another miscarriage, “Let’s go to the hospital. Let’s find out what’s wrong.” He reluctantly agreed.
We ran the tests. I held my breath the whole time, worried they might confirm the hearsay, though I had never aborted any pregnancy. But when the doctor returned, he told us plainly—the miscarriages were not my fault. The problem was with my husband’s sperm.
I remember the silence that filled the room. My husband’s shoulders slumped. My own tears flowed, not from victory, but from release. All those years of blame, of carrying shame that wasn’t mine, finally lifted.
Now, my mother-in-law doesn’t say much to me. She avoids my eyes. Sometimes I still hear faint whispers in the neighborhood, but I walk taller. I know the truth. And though the pain of my losses will never fully leave, I carry a new strength in me. Because I survived not just miscarriages, but accusations, shame, and loneliness.
My husband later pleaded with me for being the cause of my pain all this while without even knowing. He is currently undergoing treatment, and I believe strongly that very soon, we will testify.”
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